Posts by troubled mind

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Is anyone else getting ready for Christmas?

by juni in

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i was in the mood today... got the tree cheap (came w/lights), decorations and ribbon for half price and made the bow myself to save money.

i was going to put it aside until after thanksgiving, but couldn't resist completing the project.

i just have to get some fiber fill for "snow" at the base.

troubled mind

My husband starting putting Christmas lights up on the house this weekend !!! His first time ever ,so proud of him . I am off work the rest of the month so plan on putting the tree up next week and decorating . Looking forward to it ...I love the glitter and lights

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How do the friends you have now compare to the Witness friends you had before ?

by troubled mind in

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i must share my recent experience .

i was raised a witness until i left 6 yrs ago at 44 .

i had lots of good aquantances ,but not one close to my bosom best friend .

troubled mind

Talesin...that is shocking you have to wait so long ...I am so glad you have someone so kind to assist you .

Morbidzbaby....I always thought here was something wrong with me when I was a Witnees ,when all along it was just that I was raised in a cult ! It is so wonderful to know you are liked just for being yourself and not because you qualify as acceptable association because of some crazy religions checklist

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How do the friends you have now compare to the Witness friends you had before ?

by troubled mind in

jw
friends

i must share my recent experience .

i was raised a witness until i left 6 yrs ago at 44 .

i had lots of good aquantances ,but not one close to my bosom best friend .

troubled mind

I must share my recent experience . I was raised a witness until I left 6 yrs ago at 44 . I had lots of good aquantances ,but not one close to my bosom best friend . All our relationships had conditions upon them ,at least that was the case for my family .

When I faded six yrs ago I made it a point to reach out and make new friends . I found that people are open and accepting . One of my work mates has become my best friend .She has included me into her already established group of friends and they openly accepted me . Another friend which left the same congregation as me has introduced me to her husbands relatives and friends ,and once again I have been included into the group . It is so different to just be accepted for who you are and not judged .

With my recent surgery my friend came to the hospital with my husband and me ,she never left my side through the whole process ( I didn't have to ask she just knew how scared i was ) After the operation I had complications with the pain medication and stopped breathing she stayed by my side all night long in a recliner watching over me . I am 50 yrs old and have never experienced this kind of friendship and loyalty . It is amazing and you can believe she knows how much I value her kindness . She is always trying to get me to attend church with her ,but even though I refuse she continues to be my friend (A witness would never do that )

The other friends I have made have already been bringing food ,making plans to drive me to dr appointments ect ... I have never been treated so well in my life . As a witness I had three surgeries , and never did I have this kind of help .

So if you are lurking do not believe it when you hear how horrible your life will be with out the 'friends'.....it is not true .

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easy point and shoot or SLR camera?

by juni in

i would appreciate your advice, suggestions, and brand recommendations.

thank you.. juni.

troubled mind

I have several Canon SLR camera's and very pleased with them . I also have 2 Canon point and shoot , 'power shots' .Excellant results .

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Are you sure leaving the JW religion has made your life better?. Lurkers think twice

by mankkeli in

on this forum, i have carefully read most of the experiences of those who left the jw religion, i have even read experiences that have dated back to 2001, i have read the different circumstances surrounding their exits and what ensued upon leaving.

for the majority, i observed they are better remainning in the religion than leaving.

what benefit is there to strain family relationship because you want to be free?, please tell me, of what value is that freedom?,.

troubled mind

I for one am absolutely positive leaving the Jehovah's Witness religion has made MY life BETTER !!! 100 %

The religion I was raised in and practiced for over 40 yrs .did not bring me the degree of happiness ,contentment and peace I now have . I am 50 yrs old and left the JW's only six yrs ago . I have a more open honest relationship now with my mate and children than ever before . As a witness relationships always seemed strained because of presumed 'christian values' over rode true human emotion and feelings . I now am free to accept people for who they are ,not what some publishing company says they should be in order to be my friend .

Are there difficulties to over come ? Of course there are . Is it worth the pain of losing some so called friends and family in order to gain personal freedom and integrity ??? Yes it is .

Life is better because I am now free to LIVE my life , no longer is my life dictated to me by a publishing company .

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Secret Santa 2011

by nugget in

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friends

last year i coordinated secret santa for jwn and am happy to do so again.

however i would like to get organised sooner rather than later since international postage means that santas need to be allocated by the end of november to ensure that presents can be despatched in good time for christmas.

if you wish to participate please let me know and indicate whether you are happy to post internationally or whether you would prefer someone in the same country.

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I need an operation very soon ...

by troubled mind in

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Thanks Blondie . It helps to hear someone else had a good outcome .

Thanks Shamus - I just need to keep really busy the next two weeks .

I get really anxious and I internalize it all . Today at the Dr appointment my blood pressure was 170/80 ,and that was after my BP medicine ! Pure anxiety .

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Have You Ever Feared Being Outed On This Site?

by minimus in

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friends

or do you not care at all?.

troubled mind

I don't care anymore .

James - I am sooo jealous We LOVE Lyons ! We visit our son in Longmont every year .

Magwitch - Our son works in Boulder .

Next summer we should plan a mini aposta fest ,I know several others are in your area too.